Saturday, February 23, 2013

Blog Hop!

Open Adoption Blog Hop #2

I love Open Adoption Bloggers and how they connect people from all parts of the adoption triad. This is the second blog hop (I don't know where I was for the first) and we're supposed to share our favorite quote. I have two. Here they are:

"If a mother can love more than one child, why can't a child love more than one mother?"

I like this because it puts the concept of adoptive mom and birth mom together in a clear way. We can (and do) love more than one child, so why is it so foreign to think that a child could (and does) love more than one mother? While I'll always be Gus's mom and Hugh's mom, they both have birth moms who will always be the person who brought them into this world. Both labored with them, and birthed them. Both experienced pain (physical) while bringing them into this world. And both matter.

The other quote that I love is:

"Biology is the least of which that makes someone a mother." -Oprah

I like this one because I cannot physically have children. I will never know what it's like to feel my child on the inside, but it doesn't make me less of a person or less of a mother. Sometimes there are women who can (and do) get pregnant without trying and they don't want to be moms. They sometimes neglect their children and just because they share a biological connection, it doesn't make them any better of a mother than me, who doesn't share a biological connection to any offspring.

Anyway, those are my two favorite quotes. I also have one more "Those with nothing to hide, hide nothing." -Dr. Phil  :-)

What's your favorite quote and why?

Sunday, February 17, 2013

Quick Update

I feel like there's a million things that I want to write about and I have zero time. It's almost midnight and I'm going to be so mad at myself tomorrow when I have to be up early for church.

Church? What?? Yes! I've started going to church again and this time, it's at Christ the King. It's the church where Gus goes to preschool and I figured it'd make more sense to go to church there, because we're there twice a week and see many people from preschool, at church. I want him to grow up feeling part of the church and I am so glad we already do.

A week ago, I met with Pastor Brian and we chatted for about an hour about my questions and whatnot about the Lutheran Church. I came to really like what we talked about and I decided that I'd go to the Sunday 11am service to see how I liked it. Well, the 11am is a contemporary service and it was NOT for me. Way too loosey-goosey and I felt empty when I left.

Thankfully, Steve and I went back on Ash Wednesday (with Lesley and Logan) and we had a wonderful experience. I decided that I want to join the church. So no more Episcopal Church for me-- I'm going to be a Lutheran.

Speaking of CTK, this past Thursday (Valentine's Day), was the very first time that Gus went to school and did NOT cry at all!!! I was so proud of him!! I really hope we have turned the corner on this and he'll start enjoying his time at school.

He had a Valentine's Day party at school and it was so fun to see him with his friends and be in his classroom. Here are a few pictures:

Ready for his party!

Playing cars before school

Ready to start the day!

I adore him!

Washing his hands after eating his cupcake

Gus and his two teachers

The class bulletin board

Gus's heart

The Valentines that I made for Gus

Steve's dad and Sue Ann came down Thursday night and we've had a nice visit with them. They're going home tomorrow morning. They were kind enough to watch the boys for us today so we could go see a movie! It was so nice!!

Tomorrow I have a hair appointment and I'm getting it cut and highlighted! I can't wait! I also have a nail appointment. It's going to be a day of being pampered for me!!

I'm off to bed-- I'll try to blog again tomorrow. We'll see.